Grief Over Canceld Milestones

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Grief Over Canceled Milestones Is Real

 

Grief Over Canceled Milestones Is Real.

Here’s How to Cope.

As the world finds itself amid the COVID-19/Coronavirus pandemic, there has been a commonality that has emerged. We, as a society, are collectively grieving. Yes, you heard me! We are grieving! For some, the grief is related to the loss of a job which now comes with fears and anxieties related to the financial implications. For others, the grief is related to not being able to celebrate a birthday, anniversary, graduation, wedding; the list goes on and on. 

Grief Over Canceled Milestones Is Real

Grief Over Canceled Milestones Is Real

Some are experiencing grief due to the loss of their daily routine. Grabbing coffee with friends, going to happy hour, and church are now things of the past. There is one thing I must be clear about. Having an awareness of your own personal grief does NOT mean that you do not understand and/or care about those lives who have been lost to the COVID-19/Coronavirus. If you find yourself struggling, here are five tips to help you cope with the grief you might experience 

 C -Call out your feelings.

Giving a name to what you are feeling can be the first step in resolving it. Saying your feelings aloud can help you feel empowered so that you can start to regain control over your emotions. Journaling, meditation, and deep breathing exercises are a just a few tools that can help you cope.

 O -Offer grace to yourself and others.

This pandemic is all new to us, and we are all figuring it out as we go. Keep in mind that everyone grieves differently. Rather than judge and persecute others for how they are grieving, especially if it differs from the way you do, give them some grace.

 V -Validate your feelings. 

It is perfectly okay to feel what you are feeling. Do not allow others to minimize your feelings with statements of guilt. For example, “At least you can work from home.” 

 I -Identify daily things in your life that you are thankful for.

Grief Over Canceled Milestones Is Real

Grief Over Canceled Milestones Is Real

The practice of gratitude can be extremely helpful in changing your outlook on things. Try thinking of three things each day that you are grateful for and/or that bring you joy.

It can be hard to look at the “good” when there is chaos all around. However, you might find that if you start to look for the collateral beauty around yourself, you just might find it.

 D -Don’t be afraid to reach out. 

Asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness. Try to stay connected as much as possible to loved ones utilizing FaceTime, Skype, Zoom, etc. If you find you need counseling, Ironwood has three licensed social workers available to offer individual counseling.


Jessica Wells Integrative Services Ironwood cancer & Research CentersAbout The Author, Jessica Wells, LMSW

Jessica is a Licensed Master Social Worker who graduated from Arizona State University with a Master’s Degree in Social Work in 2011.  Jessica also received a Bachelor of Arts in Psychology, as well as a Bachelor of Science in Justice Studies from Arizona State University.

She has 12 years of experience in the following sectors: child welfare, general pediatrics, pediatric intensive care, pediatric hematology/oncology, and the acute mental health/behavioral healthcare setting.

About Ironwood Cancer & Research Centers

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